Break the routine

As each day passes by in the daily grind

The soul craves for a challenge that will enlighten the mind,

The cycle of a mundane routine kills my imagination 

As each day passes I crave for a vacation,

Then I ponder over a question that has made me wonder for days

In a routine that bores me why don’t I find some creative ways,

I open my pen and sit with a notebook in which I used to write poetry

But words don’t flow the way they used to when I wrote while sitting below a tree,

As I pen down my first thoughts and struggle to find a further way

The table clock reminds me of the tasks to be done before the end of day,

I keep the pen down and stare at the line I wrote on the paper for a while

Telling myself I will complete the tasks later which makes me smile,

After an hour of struggle I finally finish the poem with satisfaction 

And I return to the routine without any depression,

All you need is a little time for yourself once in a while

To break the chains of routine and do something that makes you smile.

Women's Day 2019 - What about the MAN in the woMAN?

What about the man in the woman, who works day & night so his family can survive 

He wakes up early morning, sleeps late at night and does overtime in a job that is nine to five

Everyone in the family appreciates his wife for being a superwoman but nobody looks at the man who supports her all the time

Yet he doesn’t complain, he smiles and goes to the shop outside his house to drink soda with lime,

The newspapers discuss laws that would help in protecting women from all types of crimes

But they do not talk about the man who teaches his daughter to fight when she faces difficult times

They say that this world is not safe because there is a man standing outside her door

The media is not interested in writing about the man who stands for justice yet is uncared for,

Everyone greets her with flowers for the support that she extends

For making her life so beautiful nobody asks him what he expects

There is a special day to celebrate the glory and success of a woman

So why don’t we have a day to celebrate the contribution of her man?

She cooks, cleans, takes care of her family every single day

To make her smile on difficult days he goes out of the way

We have enough laws to protect our damsel in distress

But now we need some regulations to protect our men who are in stress

The men who exploit women should be prosecuted 

But the women who lie and blackmail men should also be arrested 

We want to be protected from harassment that’s why we started the slogan “Me too”

To stand against the women who misuse the law, the time has come to start the campaign of “He too”

I am not a feminist, I believe in equality for all

I don’t want to be treated special, I just want credit for work done on my own

My strength comes from my father, my husband and my brother 

Who always taught me not to feel let down by another,

On this woman’s day let’s celebrate real freedom

Instead of blindly supporting women who lie in the name of feminism 

Let us express gratitude to the man who helps you become a woman

Let us create a world where no one asks what about the MAN in the woMAN.

A tribute to Indian Army - The Soldier who stood alone

I salute the soldier who stood alone in winter and in summer,

It is because of him that I live my life with peace and cheer,

I sleep on my bed peacefully at night,

Because a soldier is keeping danger out of my sight,

I enjoy the festivals and holidays with my family,

While the soldier guards our borders even if the weather is chilly,

He goes through a tough training,

So he can serve my country,

He doesn't bother if his shoes are torn when it is raining,

So I can play with my child and be happy,

Today his family mourns and is feeling sad,

While I watch the news about his death and feel bad,

He gave his life in a second for my security,

And all I do is light candles and forward messages on whatsapp,

He fought till the end so he could do his duty,

While I sit with my friends to have coffee and chit-chat,

After a few days the media will start discussing another story,

People will forget the soldier and his glory,

I hope we all remember how the man stood alone,

While fighting for our security, today the soldier is gone.

Jai Hind 🇮🇳
Janki Hemani (www.passion-goals.blogspot.com) 

Getting Pregnant

“A child teaches a woman to be a mother,

The joy that a child gives you is like no other,

By the end of each day you may feel exhausted,

But a smile from your child will make you feel energetic,

A husband and wife may love each other lifelong,

But the presence of a child makes their bond strong.”

Being a mother is the most wonderful experience I’ve had so far. It has taught me the meaning of unconditional love and gratitude towards my husband and my family. Parenthood is not easy and requires lot of patience and perseverance. This article will discuss some alternative non-medical ways to help you get started on your journey of motherhood.

If you are ready for this journey then you must consult a doctor first. Apart from the advice that the doctor will give, the following steps will definitely help you to get pregnant in a healthy way:

1. Love yourself and Accept yourself

The weighing scale plays a crucial role in the process of conceiving a baby, yet the most important thing that you need to do is to love yourself. Accepting your body as it is will play a very important role in this journey. If weight is an issue then work on getting fit but first, you must accept yourself as you are. This will create a foundation of positivity which will help you during pregnancy and childbirth. 

2. A supportive partner makes the journey beautiful 

My husband was very caring and supportive from the time we decided to have a child. In our society, women are still targeted on issues related to pregnancy and childcare. If you are married for a year, people start getting curious as to why you are not pregnant yet. All couples have their priorities in this regard yet family and friends tend to gossip and enquire about these things. During such times, your husband’s support will help you stay away from unnecessary comments. My husband and I decided when it was time for us to have a baby and comments from the society never ceated tension between us. He was extremely sensitive to me during the process as I had Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). Even before we decided to get pregnant, the doctors told us it would be difficult for me to get pregnant naturally due to PCOS. However, a strong will along with a positive attitude reversed my PCOS.

3. You can get pregnant naturally even with PCOS

I will deal with this topic in the next article as it requires a detailed discussion. Despite the doctor’s advice, I got pregnant naturally when we decided to get on this journey. It is completely possible to have PCOS yet have a normal pregnancy and delivery.

4. Weight is not just a number

When I got pregnant, I was overweight. But I still had lost 10 kilos from my original weight before we started thinking about having a child. Weight is not just a number. Extra kilograms of body fat not only invite diseases, but also make you lethargic. You may get through a healthy pregnancy with the extra kilograms, but you will face lot of difficulties while caring for a newborn and recovering from delivery. I have given details about what worked for me while losing weight in my article “One scale at a time” at https://passion-goals.blogspot.com/2018/03/one-scale-at-time.html

5. Yoga improves concentration and assists in a healthy pregnancy 

Yoga has been my favorite way to get fit. It not only improves concentration but helps in conception. I had joined a two day prenatal yoga workshop at the Yoga Institute in Mumbai. This helped me a lot during my last trimester. Although the doctor was of the view that it may be difficult for me to have a normal delivery but yoga gave me the confidence and strength to have a normal delivery without epidural. You must do the Baddhakonasana (butterfly pose) everyday before conception and during pregnancy as this asana strengthens the pelvic area and eases the delivery process. It also helps in the process of conception.

6. Squat your way through pregnancy 

It is very important to have strength in your calf and leg muscles so you can carry the weight of a growing belly and deliver your baby without epidural. Squats are the best exercise for strengthening your legs, glutes and pelvic area. If you are new to squatting then start slowly under supervision. Do this exercise everyday especially during the last three months of pregnancy as it will assist your baby in getting in the right position (head down) at the time of delivery. I would advise you to squat even before you conceive so your body gets accustomed to the exercise.

7. Don’t diet but add healthy options in your meals 

I love to eat out at restaurants, cafes and street. I have a sweet tooth as well. Dieting would never work for me. So I decided to eat what I like but I added some healthy food options to my meals everyday. Eating all types of berries, coconut, spinach, fenugreek, broccoli, banana, carrots and oranges helps a lot to get pregnant naturally and have a healthy pregnancy. These foods (especially coconut) also help to increase breast milk production. Carrots help in controlling acidity levels even during pregnancy.

8. Have faith

If things don’t work out immediately don’t get disappointed. Focus on building a strong faith on yourself and your partner. Nature has its own way of presenting us with the most beautiful gift in the world in the form of children. You will get what you believe you deserve. 

I wish you best of luck for a healthy pregnancy and childbirth.

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Pregnancy Diaries - Introduction

It’s been 2 months and 15 days since my baby girl was born. Her name is Shanaya. She is the most beautiful person I have ever seen. When her little fingers hold my hand, I feel alive. Every mother talks about the joy of being a mom, but there is more to being a mom than the cuddles and giggles. Prior to becoming a mom, I was a lawyer, a daughter, a wife, a friend, a writer  and someone who loved to sleep and watch movies. Since the last two and a half months, the only thing left in my personality is motherhood. All I think about is how to protect my little munchkin from infection and how to make sure that she is on the right growth path. 

I finally decided to write about my journey from getting pregnant to becoming a mother. This is my first blog about pregnancy and motherhood. I chose to write about this topic so I can share the things that helped me during pregnancy and thereafter. 

The internet is full of information about any doubt that you can imagine regarding maternity. As a first time mom, you will get tempted to check every doubt on Google. You may end up trusting Google more than your parents or the doctor. Although some things that are available online are fairly correct, there is a lot of unreliable information also. 

My tip No. 1 is do not rely on the internet completely to clear your doubts regarding issues that may come up during pregnancy and thereafter. Trust your instincts. When you become a mom, God gives you the instinct to understand what works best for you and your baby. 

The next article in this series will be about “Getting pregnant”. I will share with you the things that no one tells you honestly about conception and things that will help you in taking your first step towards maternity.  Please follow my blog at www.passion-goals.blogspot.com for reading more interesting stuff in the series “Pregnancy Diaries” and to read articles and poetry about inspiration, relationships, travel and life.