An Abstract Love ❤️

Hello everyone, I am a lawyer by profession and a writer by passion. I have worked in the legal industry in India and Oman for 8 years. In 2016, I started my blog - Dreamers, Passion-Seekers, Go-Getters.

My first eBook - An Abstract Love - has been launched on www.amazon.com. This book is about Zoya and Rihaan, who fall in love even though they’re from different walks of lives. This story will take you through an emotional journey of love, loss, insecurities, life choices, human connections that we often tend to ignore and the regrets that we learn to live with as a result of our hidden fears. 

You can purchase your copy of this book at different Amazon stores. The links to some of these stores are as follows: 

Amazon US - https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DZ879J7

Amazon India - https://www.amazon.in/dp/B07DZ879J7

Amazon UK - https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07DZ879J7

Catch a glimpse of the book trailer below.

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A rendezvous with God

Lisa was a rebel, some called her an atheist for she did not believe in God,

She excelled in academics and in sports she won accolades, she was proud of what she was,

One day when she returned home from school and saw a crowd outside her house, she felt a little odd,

She heard some cries and ran inside, she was told that prolonged illness was her mother’s deaths’ probable cause,

She fell on the ground and cried aloud as her mother was the only one she had in her family,

The neighbors consoled and asked her to be strong, but she could only feel the broken pieces of her heart,

Her mother was a believer of God, she prayed every day and went to the church regularly,

Lisa didn’t believe in the almighty so she went to the beach near her house, staring at the water as she fell apart,

Out of nowhere a child came to her and asked her if she would make a castle of sand and give her company,

Reluctantly Lisa agreed to play with the child and within a few moments they created something so beautiful on the sand that looked like some type of art,

The tide was high and the water destoyed the sand art that Lisa had created with the child so beautifully,

Lisa looked at the child for signs of disappointment but instead the child smiled at her and started creating a new sand art,

When Lisa asked the child if she wasn’t upset that her castle had been destoryed and she would have to restart,

The child looked at her and calmly replied that may be God had a different plan for her, a plan that she didn’t know yet but it will definitely lead her to happiness,

On hearing this Lisa was astonished at how easy it was for the child to believe in his presence who she had never seen,

The child’s mother came from far waving at her happily, she said goodbye to Lisa and whispeed something in her ear before leaving,

“You don’t need to see God to believe in him, he is everywhere, he lived in your mother and lives within you whether you believe in him or not.”

The Sound of her Silence

What is love? The noise in the head or the silence of the heart,

The fragrance of a flower which blooms in winter,

The sadness of the eyes when she is not near,

He says for him love is her presence within him,

She was like the flower which blooms in winter and withers in summer,

She was like the rain which lasted for a season in which they met,

He didn’t have words to express his feelings, before he could say a word she disappeared,

He waited for the seasons to change and the flowers to bloom again,

He waited to smell the fragrance of the scent that she had worn that day,

Night and day, he looked at the river bank where they had met on a Sunday,

She came one day and his eyes sparkled with happiness once again,

He hugged her and told her that he had something important to say,

Before he could tell her anything further, she gave him a wedding card which was scheduled to take place in May,

His heart sank, his eyes were teary yet he put up a smile and congratulated her,

She said she had to leave so she could invite the other family members and friends,

He let her go into her world of happiness, a world of which he would never be a part again,

Some of his friends asked him why had he kept his feelings in his heart and silently tolerated the pain,

He smiled and said “My love didn’t need to hear the noise of her yes, her silence was enough to make me feel loved even after she left”.https://passion-goals.blogspot.com/2018/02/a-poem-of-eternal-love.html

Food Addiction - 7 ways to stop binge eating

Addiction are of various types, yet often people forget to address the issue of "Food Addiction". With the junk food lifestyle, a high dependence on packet and frozen foods, there is a growing number of population worldwide fighting lifestyle diseases such as obesity, diabetes, poly-cystic ovary syndrome, thyroid, depression, etc. However, most people don’t even acknowledge food addiction as an addiction till they are diagnosed with a disease that cannot be cured unless there is a drastic lifestyle change.

I realized that I was a food addict in 2016 when I gained an extra 12 kilos over my already overweight weight range. This extra weight pulled me down and led me to  eating even more. I have managed to lose those extra 12 kilos by making slight modifications in my food and exercise lifestyle. I still love food but I am not a food addict anymore. Although I am a vegetarian, I love potatoes, fried food and sugar. The temptation of eating a bag of chips, biscuits or a pastry is still an issue. However, for the most part I am able to control my cravings. 

I dealt with my food addiction in the following ways:

1.        Acceptance of the situation

When we are faced with a crisis or we are stuck in a difficult situation, the most important thing is to accept the situation. It took me some time to accept that I am a food addict before I could start working on reversing the situation. The first stage to overcome any disaster is to accept the disaster and then find a solution. Once you accept that you have a problem, it becomes easier to find solutions as you are not running away from the problem anymore. This also helps to calm the mind and work positively towards changing the situation.

2. Building faith in yourself

Trusting yourself is the hardest thing to do when you have suffered a loss or are in the midst of a disaster or have been diagnosed with a disease. When I realized how much weight I had gained, it was really difficult to believe in myself and to change my lifestyle. From being a couch potato to getting even a 15 minute walk done was a challenge. I started slow and kept reminding myself that if somebody else can do it, so can I. Every day when I achieved victory over my doubts and cravings, I gained more confidence. From walking at home for 15 minutes a day, I got to a point where I could complete a 45 minute exercise program at least 5 days a week. The exercise helped me gain control over my cravings. By the end of one year, I had managed to lose a few kilos that were pulling me down and gain confidence. The mantra is to always know in your mind that anything is achievable if you have faith in yourself.

3. Yoga or meditation

During this journey, I enrolled myself in a 7 day yoga camp at the Yoga Institute in Mumbai (India). This 7 day camp not only taught me yoga techniques but also taught me to eat well. Live to eat was my approach towards food. This camp taught me that my approach itself was wrong. Thus, I began to eat to live. By the end of the camp, my spirits were high and my will was strong. Yoga not only calms your mind but it is a way of life. Anyone can do yoga anywhere. When you learn to control your breaths, you achieve power over your mind. A powerful mind is the best tool that a person can have to deal with any situation.

4. Letting go of the baggage

These days a lot of youngsters are being treated for back pain, acidity, frozen shoulder and spondylitis. I was also suffering from initial spondylitis when I gained the extra weight. Apart from the physiotherapist sessions and massages, it is very important to learn the art of forgiving. We carry too many grudges and too much hatred in our hearts, which eventually burden our bodies. When you carry so much baggage constantly, you are bound to suffer from health issues. Yoga or breathing exercises help you to release this baggage. You cannot control an external situation or other people’s behaviour. But you can work on your mind. Gaining control over your senses helps you to understand that nothing lasts forever and that no matter how much you try to control others or circumstances, you will simply fail. The only thing you can control is YOU. If someone hurts you badly, you binge on chocolate and chips and ultimately harm yourself. Don’t give anyone or any situation the right to hurt you or make you angry. This can happen only when you let go of control and accept that being hurt is a part of being alive. When you forgive, you release the baggage and the tension that is harming your body. I am not a master of this art but I am more aware about situations where I get the opportunity to become a better person and forgive people who hurt me.

5. Support Group

Dealing with any type of addiction requires support from your loved ones. Some people join support groups for help where like-minded people discuss their problems and find solutions. For me, my husband, my parents and my friends are the support group that encourage me to live a healthier life. My husband and I joined a gym and we work out together to motivate each other to exercise as many days in the week as we can. My family and friends have constantly motivated me to make healthier food choices. I love junk food and I have bad days when I binge a lot. But I have now managed to form a connection with my body such that my body gives me a signal when it is full so I can stop eating. Being able to talk to someone and share your story plays a great role in helping you get rid of an addiction or a tough situation. I also started writing motivational blogs to inspire others and in turn to feel inspired.

6. Love yourself

No matter how many daggers life throws at you or you feel absolutely alone, you should never stop loving yourself. I almost stopped loving myself due to the weight gain and loss of confidence when I realized that I am worthy of love and appreciation. The journey of hating yourself to falling in love with yourself is not easy but if you can’t love yourself then no one else will. I began to notice small positive changes in my life and that encouraged me to love myself. I forgave myself for the mistakes I’d made. I started cooking food that I loved to eat more often rather than eating out every other day. Eating home cooked food is not only healthy but also satisfying. Cooking and exercising releases tension and helps you to appreciate how much your body does only to keep you alive. When you fall in love with yourself, you feel alive and happy.

7. Never give up

My journey is ongoing and I have resolved to never give up. There will be good days and there will be bad days, but the winner is only the one who does not give up. Every day you have to try to do better than yesterday. A new year party or bingeing on a holiday should not be factors that make you want to give up. Enjoy the journey that you make from the point you started. The lessons you learn in this journey will be with you forever. But nothing works if you fall down and don’t get up. Trying a hundred times and failing is better than giving up. You might win the 101st time. I am on this journey to change my lifestyle and get rid of the food addiction. I have resolved not to give up till I get to the place I want to be in and this is my advice to all my friends and readers.

The greatest lesson that I have learnt while dealing with food addiction is that “I Can if I Think I Can”. It is very easy to shift in the disbelief zone and blame external circumstances for your situation. In reality, if you have a good heart, if you work hard, if you are honest and if you have faith, then you can face any disaster and emerge victorious.

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